Self-Care

Self-Quiz: Are You Too Busy?

It is not enough to be busy. So are the ants. The question is: What are we busy about?” –Henry David Thoreau

Time is the great equalizer. Everybody gets the same amount: 24 hours in a day, 60 minutes in an hour and although it would be pretty cool to say,”I’ll take 24 hours on Monday, 36 hours on Tuesday and 15 hours for Wednesday.” Unfortunately, we can’t save time, accumulate or rearrange it. No. It doesn’t work like that. You can’t turn it off or on.

And, it can’t be replaced.

But these days, it seems as if the lament of not having enough time has become a national anthem. Everywhere people find themselves constantly in a rush, over-booked and over-scheduled with no time off. And, I must admit I’ve been in the same situation. But, I realized that doing too much and being too busy can be unproductive and cut you off from experiencing vibrant relationships and living a healthy lifestyle. Though it may not always seem so, how we fill our time and how we spend it is our choice.

Answer the following questions to discover if you’re caught up in the “too-busy” cycle.

  1. I constantly find myself doing “urgent” things and trying to catch up.
  2. I allow myself to drift into obligations when I don’t know how much time or energy they’ll require.
  3. I find myself running from when I get up in the morning until I go to bed at night. I’m always tired and never feel like I accomplished enough.
  4. I seldom schedule a day off for myself and when I do, I tend to fill it with activities.
  5. I don’t make time for “self-care” activities: physical exercise, nurturing or “pampering” myself, cultural stimulation, spiritual well-being, learning something new, playing, or simply doing nothing.
  6. I seldom have time to do the things I really love.
  7. My work and project areas are cluttered with “I’ll look at this later” stacks and “to-do” piles.
  8. I often miscalculate how long certain activities will take.
  9. I often miss deadlines or work long hours to meet a deadline.
  10. I respond to interruptions such as phone calls, faxes, email, beepers and pagers, and allow them to take me off track.
  11. I try to keep things in my head rather than making lists. If I do make a daily “to-do” list, it’s impossible to complete in a day.
  12. I tend to move from one urgent thing to the next, rather than working toward specific goals and objectives.
  13. I find myself constantly wishing I had more time or projecting an imaginary future when I have more time, making comments such as “as soon as…” or “next year…”
  14. I spend time running errands and rushing because I didn’t plan well enough.
  15. I spend time doing things I could pay someone else to do.
  16. I often do things because I “should,” or continue to do things that no longer fit who I am.
  17. Other people complain that my schedule doesn’t allow enough time for them.

Post your thoughts below, are you too busy?

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The Power of Asking For What You Want


What if I told you that the deep desire that you’ve been incubating in you heart could be yours today? Does that sound enticing? I’m sure it does, but let’s cut to the chase and get to the point. If you really want what you say you want then you better open your mouth and ask for it. Asking for what you want is a powerful act that can send strong ripples through your life. While it may seem simple enough, four things need to be in place first:

1.Know what you want
2.Fully believe you deserve it
3.Be prepared to accept the answer “No”
4.Communicate your request with clarity

What Do You Want?
Wants emerge from needs you are experiencing, for example: the need to be heard, the need for respect, expedience, beauty, and intimacy. Knowing the need helps you be clear about what you are requesting. It’s helpful to distinguish between needs that move us towards well-being and those that never really bring happiness, such as the desire for approval or to be right.

Believe You Deserve It
If you think you can’t have what you want, take time to examine your limiting beliefs. Make a list of all the things you want, then write all the reasons you can’t have them. Are these reasons really true? Have you made decisions about “reality” or made assumptions about others that keep you from even asking for what you want? When you ask people for what you want, you offer them the opportunity to contribute, something we all wish to do.

Prepare for No
Asking for what you truly want honors your experience and brings you into deeper alignment with the essence of who you are. You connect with your own humanness and know where you stand. Having asked, it may no longer be so important that you get exactly what you want; the asking, itself, is empowering.

Effective Communication
Tony Robbins says, “The answer is always ‘no’ if you don’t ask.” True! But asking is more effective when you follow these guidelines for effective communication:

1. State your need clearly, followed by your request.
2. Ask for what you want in the present (not “I wanted you to help me with the kids yesterday.”)
3. Ask for what you do want, not what you don’t want. (“I want you to spend time with me,” not “I don’t want you to be at work so much.”)
4. Ask in the form of a request, rather than a demand.
5. Detach from the outcome.

Remember that empowerment comes in the asking. When you ask for what you want, you have planted not only the seeds of better communication, but of more clearly knowing who you are, which is present in what you want.

Tell me if this article resonates with you. When was the last time you asked for something that you wanted?  I’ll be commenting back to your post.

 

 

 

Interested in Working with Me?

Are you impelled to take your life to the next level? Are you ready to RISE OVER THE TOP and push play on your creative dreams? If you say yes, you’ll love The Clarity Call Formula. It’s my most affordable success coaching & high-impact program designed for the creative woman seeking clarity, mentorship and proven success strategies to launch them forward and live their dreams out loud. I focus on igniting your passion, expanding your greatness and mastering your mindset. Among other fantastic benefits, each All-Start Client is entitled to three high-powered coaching calls per month from yours truly. Testimonials from clients illustrate their immediate RESULTS, new found confidence and readiness for accomplishing their goals.For more information about signing up for your Clarity Call, you may give me a call at 1-213-537-4738. You may also reply to this message for your inquiries. www.sheRises.org #KeepRISING