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I’m Sick of It… The Truth About Passion



Today’s article came from a deep place. I didn’t want to send this out because I knew some people would be upset. But I’m yanking the covers off the lie that’s prevailing in the marketplace. Honestly, I’m sick of it.

Scenario 1 

We’ve all seen it: the auditions for American Idol. During the interview, a young woman speaks passionately about her dream of becoming a singer. Her story is absolutely amazing and you even find yourself tearing up after hearing her express her desire to sing  with such emotion. You’re convinced that she might win just by her introduction alone. Suddenly, the moment arrives when she has to sing. But after she sings the first note…

…you’re slightly disappointed.

Actually, you’re shocked. Maybe even confused.

You ask yourself: “How can she be so passionate about singing and yet, she can’t sing?”

If you’re watching with a friend, you give each other that look and shake your heads.

The truth: She’s confused passion with purpose.

Scenario 2 

Michelle is multi-talented; in fact, everything she touches turns to gold. She’s competent at a number of things and has even won numerous accolades and awards for her ability to dominate in her industry. She’s heard about a great opportunity to start a new business in cooking. She knows that she can learn how to do anything (within her means, of course,) and she’s interested in this new venture. Everybody knows that cooking is something that brings her alive. But, she refuses to give it a chance.  She’d prefer to do what looks “good” to everyone else.

The truth: She’s confused purpose with ability.

Does this sound like anyone you might know?

What’s the Problem?

In the personal development and success/business coaching industry, there is a lot of talk about finding your passion, and unfortunately too many women are falling for this “passion trap.”   What’s even worse, is that these women (not you) start to mimic the so-called high-achievers in  search of  their own success and miss out on what they are YOUniquely purposed to do.

I hate to say this but, it bothers me, beyond irritation to see a women relinguish her creative power for synthetic power. She abdicates her purpose for passion.

Look..

I’m not opposed to passion, but I’d like to submit to you that passion should not be the litmus test for purpose or finding your calling. 

Trust me, I understand how passion can be an indication of what you’re called to do, but it’s not (repeat after me) the basis for determining your calling.

Why?

Because its possible to be passionate about the wrong thing. In scenario one, the girl was clearly passionate. She had a strong, intense desire to become a famous singer, yet she wasn’t equipped with the skills to express a note.

In scenario number two, the girl was successful, yet unsatisfied.She made good the enemy of her great.

Who knows what kind of life she’s missing out on because she’s settling for good or passion?

 

Passion is an emotion. Emotions give us some information but they are not always true.

Passion is a very strong feeling; an intense desire for something and many people make major decisions based on how “passionate” they feel.  But passion can steer you wrong if you’re not careful.

Passion alone can lead you to believe you’re called to sing, start a new business, move to another country, or start a new relationship. And six months to a year later, you will ultimately find that passion alone is not enough to keep you satisfied, and equipped for the road to success.

That’s the problem with passion – it doesn’t guarantee fulfillment, equip you for the long haul, nor does it challenge you to  serve others. The only thing that can bring about all of that and more  is purpose

In fact, what all human beings really want is purpose.

What is Purpose?

Purpose is a deep call and a nagging burden that you have to solve a persistent problem and bring healing to that area or to a group of people.

It’s not always fancy, but it does feel like “fire shut up in your bones”.

A true purpose will give you:

  1. A Deep Satisfaction – When you’re in purpose you’ll feel it from the bottom of your heart to the whole of your spirit. You’ll have an undeniable twinkle in your eye, and every part of your being will feel deeply satisfied. Their are no strings attached.
  2. Purity – Your call should bring you to a place of purity; a place where you seek to wash yourself of unrighteousness and cleanse yourself of wrong thinking and neediness from others. Purpose is the ultimate personal development course. As you step into purpose you’re bound to come alive and live the life you were created to live.
  3. Freedom – Purpose will give you freedom to express who you are without trying to prove yourself to others. In purpose, you’re not trying to find validation or seek attention. You’re simply free to use your gifts and talents to serve others without expectation.   *SERVICE is the key .
  4. Insight – Purpose will give you insight for change and will enable you to be a problem solver/change agent/revolutionary thinker through your job, product, or services.
  5. Wholeness –  Women in purpose always feel whole. They know that God is the center of who they are and they view him as the source of all opportunity, responsibility, and growth.

Simply stated, your purpose will enable you  to access your God-self (aka your best self and your greatest self.)

Ahhhh.

Now that’s what I want. Purpose. Not passion.

I want the ability to be my best self, serve others, and shine bright as a supernova.

You might still be wondering: “Shouldn’t I feel passionate about my job, business, or calling?”  My answer is yes, but I want you to remember this:

Passion does not yield purpose, but purpose always brings about passion.

In my next article, I’ll be giving you the seven elements for finding your purpose. But for now I want you to tell me what you’re passionately purposed to do?

Interested in Working with Me?

Are you impelled to take your life to the next level? Are you ready to RISE OVER THE TOP and push play on your creative dreams? If you say yes, you’ll love The Clarity Call Formula. It’s my most affordable success coaching & high-impact program designed for the creative woman seeking clarity, mentorship and proven success strategies to launch them forward and live their dreams out loud. I focus on igniting your passion, expanding your greatness and mastering your mindset. Among other fantastic benefits, each All-Start Client is entitled to three high-powered coaching calls per month from yours truly. Testimonials from clients illustrate their immediate RESULTS, new found confidence and readiness for accomplishing their goals.For more information about signing up for your Clarity Call, you may give me a call at 1-213-537-4738. You may also reply to this message for your inquiries. www.sheRises.org #KeepRISING

The Power of Asking For What You Want


What if I told you that the deep desire that you’ve been incubating in you heart could be yours today? Does that sound enticing? I’m sure it does, but let’s cut to the chase and get to the point. If you really want what you say you want then you better open your mouth and ask for it. Asking for what you want is a powerful act that can send strong ripples through your life. While it may seem simple enough, four things need to be in place first:

1.Know what you want
2.Fully believe you deserve it
3.Be prepared to accept the answer “No”
4.Communicate your request with clarity

What Do You Want?
Wants emerge from needs you are experiencing, for example: the need to be heard, the need for respect, expedience, beauty, and intimacy. Knowing the need helps you be clear about what you are requesting. It’s helpful to distinguish between needs that move us towards well-being and those that never really bring happiness, such as the desire for approval or to be right.

Believe You Deserve It
If you think you can’t have what you want, take time to examine your limiting beliefs. Make a list of all the things you want, then write all the reasons you can’t have them. Are these reasons really true? Have you made decisions about “reality” or made assumptions about others that keep you from even asking for what you want? When you ask people for what you want, you offer them the opportunity to contribute, something we all wish to do.

Prepare for No
Asking for what you truly want honors your experience and brings you into deeper alignment with the essence of who you are. You connect with your own humanness and know where you stand. Having asked, it may no longer be so important that you get exactly what you want; the asking, itself, is empowering.

Effective Communication
Tony Robbins says, “The answer is always ‘no’ if you don’t ask.” True! But asking is more effective when you follow these guidelines for effective communication:

1. State your need clearly, followed by your request.
2. Ask for what you want in the present (not “I wanted you to help me with the kids yesterday.”)
3. Ask for what you do want, not what you don’t want. (“I want you to spend time with me,” not “I don’t want you to be at work so much.”)
4. Ask in the form of a request, rather than a demand.
5. Detach from the outcome.

Remember that empowerment comes in the asking. When you ask for what you want, you have planted not only the seeds of better communication, but of more clearly knowing who you are, which is present in what you want.

Tell me if this article resonates with you. When was the last time you asked for something that you wanted?  I’ll be commenting back to your post.

 

 

 

Interested in Working with Me?

Are you impelled to take your life to the next level? Are you ready to RISE OVER THE TOP and push play on your creative dreams? If you say yes, you’ll love The Clarity Call Formula. It’s my most affordable success coaching & high-impact program designed for the creative woman seeking clarity, mentorship and proven success strategies to launch them forward and live their dreams out loud. I focus on igniting your passion, expanding your greatness and mastering your mindset. Among other fantastic benefits, each All-Start Client is entitled to three high-powered coaching calls per month from yours truly. Testimonials from clients illustrate their immediate RESULTS, new found confidence and readiness for accomplishing their goals.For more information about signing up for your Clarity Call, you may give me a call at 1-213-537-4738. You may also reply to this message for your inquiries. www.sheRises.org #KeepRISING